The text below was originally drafted nearly 7 years ago, but it is still a topic that is very current in Christian communities and American culture. Real talk, the enemy try's to keep us in bondage, by causing us to feel shameful of our past; but the Word of God says in Revelations 12:11, "And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony." I welcome your feedback, and know that this is a no judgement zone, but a place to share your truth, in hopes of empowering others.
“Hi my name
is Florence and I am a recovering fornicator. It has been a struggle but I have
been clean for nine months.”
THESE ARE THE
WORDS OF A YOUNG PERSON STRIVING TO STAY FOCUSED IN A VERY HORMONAL AND SEX
DRIVEN ERA OF LIFE.
Today is a
typical Monday afternoon at work and in between writing a press release and
putting the final touches on the calendar of events; an erotic sensation of
pleasure and pain moistens between my legs. STOP. WAIT. HOLD UP. What’s going on here? Galatians 5:16
says “stay in the Spirit and I would not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” But
how do I do that?
There is
nothing externally stimulating me. LORD, WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME? It’s just my
body’s natural desire to resurrect the little black book (actually mine is a
little green book), to satisfy my earthly desire.
Heck he
created me thus he knows that at the age of 27 years old my body is craving to
be held, touched, caress and loved. Besides when you think about it in biblical
days I would have been married with children by now.
This
sensation has taken over my day. I think to myself if a man just so much as
look at me and smile, I am likely to loose my undergarments and fulfill
the passion that is burning inside of me.
But I cannot
do that; especially knowing that there are many people looking up to me. My flesh screams, “What the heck?” It continues to speak, “What they don’t know
won’t hurt them, right?”
I know that I
am not the only one going through this!
Thus, the question of URGENCY arises:
What do you do when you are sexy, single and saved and the "urge"
comes upon you?”
Human growth
and development classes would tell you that the urge is normal and you should
act upon it. Now days fulfilling sexual desires are grouped, as a basic human
need like food, clothing and shelter.
Typically, in
our culture people are encouraged to talk and get counseling for personal struggles related to many social
issues. It is odd that people do not want to talk about sex. It affects most, if not
all, at some point or another. People just want to stay quiet on this topic and
hope that no one (especially people at church) finds out they are battling this
sexual weakness; which is absurd because King David—a man after God’s own
heart—struggled with the same battle!
I once read
an article that mentioned a disturbing statistic on the number of Christians,
or better yet people that attended church regularly that admitted to being
fornicators. We know fornication is a sin but continually fall in its seductive
traps. Some like R&B singer Eric Benet gets so entangled by its appeal that
they are clinically labeled as “sex addicts”.
If
fornication is an addiction, much like alcohol and drug, then why is it so hard
to understand and incorporate a plan of action towards healing? Many addictive
behaviors have support groups; why not one for fornicators?
As I sit on
my living room floor at 0305 hours, I ask the Lord to show me what to do. Why
am I going through this; and how can I empower others through my experience?
The song “Let’s give them something to talk about” resonates as a soundtrack to
my thoughts. People are struggling with maintaining their virtue and living up to the commitments they made during a “True Love Waits” ceremony.
I recall that
in the early 90s the female rap group Salt-N-Pepper once sang “Let’s talk About
Sex”. However somewhere between
generation X and Y people stopped talking about sex. Instead, Nike’s “Just Do It” persona became
the social conversation piece and norm.
I’ve noticed
that in our culture it is hard to talk about sex. BUT THAT STOPS TODAY!
Until Next Time Stay Positive and Be Blessed,
The Original Godzillionairess
